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I will almost always assist a new or experienced driver when they need a little help. But, because of experiences with new super truckers I don't offer unless they ask. I've been told where to go by a couple of drivers and to mind my own business. One made it after a long while the other took out a door. I don't offer anylonger but will help if asked.
There is one major requirement you must have if you ask. You will listen to the driver helping you. I've had a couple times where I was asked but not listened to. This week a driver on his first run out of school. A grocery wharehouse with very tight parking and little room in the front. He could not get it. Tried a couple times and when I said stop by holding my hands up he kept going. I then explained the hand signals. He said he knew them. He also had the tandems all the way forward. Told him he should slide them back. He said no. his trainer taught him that trick. Tried one more time. When I said stop he kept going again. Asked why, he said he had more room and saw it. Well he was about a half inch from a Pete when he did stop.
He was mad because I stopped helping him at that point. Cussed a bit. I got two other FFE drivers that were there to help him, same company. They got mad also, at him. He was frustrated and let one drive. First thing they did was slide the tandems and then parked it.
I refused to take any responsibility for him hitting another truck. Told him if your going to ask for help you need to listen to the driver helping you. Thats good advice .
"Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of all who threaten it"

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Your so right about how some people that ask for help but won't listen to a thing you say. I to have had the same thing happen, and when it did, I just walked away and let them have at it.
If I had asked you to help me back in a place and while backing something didn't seem right to me, I would get out and walk back to the rear of the truck to check it myself. Not meaning any disrepect, only that I am responsible for my truck and not you. I would think you would do the same thing.
Just my 2 cents worth

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I once had a Schneider driver politely ask me to back his truck into the dock for him. He spent 15 minutes trying to put it to the dock. I jumped in and two shots later "in the hole" I didn't mind doing it for him, I like helping drivers but only if they ask. I've offered help before and was simply blown off like I was pestering them. Fuq it!! it they don't want the help let 'em be.

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" I would think you would do the same thing." Absolutely. I'll trust another person to an extent but I'm looking if I think there's a problem. I will though stop when you tell me to.
"Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of all who threaten it"

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One of the problems is that SOME drivers will go into the "training mode" and try to "help" drivers who neither ask for it, or want it.
They'll stand out in front yelling at you, telling you which way to turn the wheel, waving their arms.....
They're not the least bit helpful, and will eventually storm-off in a big huff because the guy having trouble didn't "appreciate" their help.
NEVER start telling another driver how to move their truck unless they give some signal they want your help. Just because you know it all and are superior in every way does NOT mean you have any right what-so-ever to interfere with that driver's operation of the truck......unless they're about to hit something with it!

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Ol' Bill Engvol was right. Sometimes ya wish stupid people had a sign around their neck so you know not to ask 'em a question. Before I ask anyone for help, I would kinda like to make sure they know more than I do! They always used to tell us at school, "If you're gonna cheat, at least cheat off someone smarter 'n you!"
MrClark (who really never cheats )
"What, me worry?" -A.E.N.—Groucho Marx 1890-1977

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Shuffler it's called asking if they need any help no billy big riger super trucker crap involved. A polite no thanks would do just fine.
"Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of all who threaten it"

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"...Shuffler it's called asking if they need any help no billy big riger super trucker crap involved. A polite no thanks would do just fine..."
I agree. I'll stand in their mirror, for example, ready to give them a "fist" to stop, or a "this much" hand signal, etc. If they ignore me, I walk away, no offense taken. And none, I presume, intended either.
If someone's helping to be "thanked" or "appreciated", they're doing it for the wrong reason. Right?

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I will watch what they can't see an hold my hands 1 foot apart or 2 feet apart or 3 feet apart or as far apart as they go and let them decide how close they want to be.I let them drive the truck and figuire out what way to turn the wheel and when to stop.
A few wouldn't look at me so I'v walked away,most appreciate the added set of eyes and I'm not intruding by telling them how to drive.
They enlisted the Teamsters’ help after the company decided that it would no longer pay them hourly wages but compensate them based on mileage, which would have cut their income in half
http://www.teamster.org/03news/hn_030110_1.htm
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Do the same as Zigzag. Not intrusive and if they don't want the help, oh well!
Will sometimes ask if the driver wants an extra pair of eyes to watch out in a tight place. Most will accept, but some seem to think you're challenging them. Those I just walk away from.