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Yep, she left me. I had been telling her lately that I really wanted to start driving a truck, and go to school and get my CDL, and she constantly kept telling me I should reconsider, and not do it. After two months, she changed her mind, said she would do what it takes to work it out, and then tonite, WHAM! Tells me she cant marry a future truck driver, that Id never be home, and that she cant take that. Man, sorry all for the post, just had to vent, never thought a *possible* career change would cost me the love of my life, but then again, maybe im better off.....I mean, I cant shake this trucking itch ive had for years, and there are more ladies out there than her......Id been delaying my return calls to Schneider, Swift and Roehl, guess its time to pick up the phone and put the furniture in storage.........

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"WHAM! Tells me she cant marry a future truck driver, that Id never be home, and that she cant take that." Well, she is right, you will hardly ever be home. You can't blame a woman for wanting her new husband home on a regular basis.
"never thought a *possible* career change would cost me the love of my life," If she is actually the love of your life you really need to think it over again.
"but then again, maybe im better off" Really, Better off sitting in a truck in the middle of ne where than being with the "lover of your Life"? Trading a truck for the person you love and that loves you. Doesn't make a lot of sense.
"I mean, I cant shake this trucking itch " Sure you can. If the love of my life, my wife, said she couldn't take it any more. You could kiss that truck goodbye. Life's to short to be trading a very special person for a truck.
"and there are more ladies out there than her" OK, good luck with the trucker ladies.
A reality check could be in store for you when you realize what you gave up the love of your life for. Trucking isn't a glamour job. It is far from it. The sparkle of chrome and big pipes fades into the reality of a job for most. I do wish you luck but believe your making a big mistake.
Good Stuff
"Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of all who threaten it"

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There is more love waiting in truckstops all over America!

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you made the right choice

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It takes a special lady to be married to a driver. If the love is real, it will endure.
You may have averted a divorce down the road, if she is putting restrictions on you now, it will get worse, trust me.
are we there yet?

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reason I am staying single
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UNTIL THE END OF TIME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So I can wake up in the middle of nowhere in a truck with a on my face!.....well probably not..but is is good to dream!

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here lies another
reason I am staying single
AMEN, I agree

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runninhorn,
Only you can decide if this is a good thing or a bad one. You are the only one that has to live with your decision.
I gave up the road for my wife a few years ago. It just delayed the inevitable - the divorce was final early last year. But I am glad that I tried. I knew the trucking would always be here. I am now headed out on the road with no regrets and there will be no lingering doubts.
I hope you can find the place you need to be. Good luck on whatever YOU decide.

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CaboverPete you made the right choice
How does she know if she could handle it or not if she did not give it a try.
And you would always hold a bit of resentment towards her for not "letting" you at least try to go after your dreams

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if she is putting restrictions on you now Ditto. She was the one that make it a deal-breaker, especially since she reneged on her agreement with you. Ya gotta provide for your family. If it wasn't trucking, it probably would've been something else.
That was very selfish of her, IMHO.
de KJ5KX

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My Ex-wife (of 11 yrs.) told me to follow my dream. So my partner and I got our own truck. We were doing great! Loving it, we were a team like no other , got along great and had complete trust in the other's ability. Well, I had to eventually sell out to him 'cuz things were getting wierd at home. So I took a job in a factory and was home everyday. (3rd shift at first). Well, 3 months later I get a note on the coffee pot..she divorced me and ran off with the guy she was messing around with at work. Hard to say if it was the trucking or if she was just a !@#$%&*&(*&
Sorry..
I guess the point is, you have to decide if she is the love of your life or not...really weigh it out..
John 3:16

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Not to get too much into this, but I have a feeling that there was a whole lot more going on then what she said.
First she said rethink your decision. Then she said she was okay with your decision. Then she said she couldn't live with you or your decision. Seems to me her decision was made from the get-go.
I agree with Stuffy. You gotta choose your dreams carefully. Love of a career dream or love of your life dream.
Damn, there's always choices. That's what free will is all about. I feel for you, brother...

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Atleast one of the two has intelligence.
Which one is a personal opinion.
Mike
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Originally posted by Spirit:
You may have averted a divorce down the road, if she is putting restrictions on you now, it will get worse, trust me.
I agree 100%. I am unemployed for the winter and I was told by my wife the other day that she would not move anywhere, even if a potential employer requires it. If I take any job that requires a move we are finished, regardless of pay, benefits, or position!

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Thanks all for the replies. Today was ruff, but with God's help, hopefully the hardest day of it is over as the wound will hopefully heal soon. Yes, there was more to it than just driving. She is a rare one, 25 years old and never dated another guy in her life before me. I met her 3 years ago, and I was her first. She often told me that she wondered what it would be like to date other people--and I just never gave that statement much thought. Things started to fly when I mentioned getting into trucking. She, I think was ashamed to tell her friends and family what I was thinking of doing, and that enraged me. I told her everybody in this USA puts their pants on one leg at a time every morning when they get up, and a person's job doesnt distinguish what kind of person they are. She had too much pride to admit to others that I was considering trucking. She wanted to Cleaver family, home every evening, eat dinner together, etc, and I wanted to pursue a trucking career. My thoughts are that if your significant other wants to really do something, support them, and stand by them no matter what. I would have moved to Timbuktoo for her, for whatever she wanted to pursue, and yet she didnt want to just see me 4 days a month, she wanted it every nite. So thats it in a nut shell, I feel better now that ive got that behind me as I see that as a divorce in the making in the future had we continued......Oh well, glad to be single again.....Now I can stay out driving more and dont have to go home.......now I dont have a home= more miles!