Question:
Hello all!
I´m getting married in six months and my wife to be and I are in the middle of a fun and interesting discussion about what I should wear to the wedding.
I just figured it would be fun to hear about what those of you who are married wore on the big day. For those unmarried; what do you think would be a great outfit? Think it would be fun to get a chance to hear opinions from all over the world. The month of May here in Sweden can be rainy-gray or 25° Celcius and sunny. The wedding is in a church 4pm, about 60 guests. So I guess daytime wear is out of the question. The dress code for guests is suit.
So:
What type of outfit would YOU wear?
What colors are OK for a wedding to YOU, including shoes an tie or likewise?
Give me views from own or observed success or total failure or links to other discussions about this perhaps. Thank you for reading!
/Tobbe

Answer:
What fun!
I personally feel that no man, no matter who he is, should wear a tux. It's just too much.
My suggestion is, if you have the means, to invest in a really top notch suit. The colour could be almost anything except white, off-white, beige (too beach wedding/casual) or black (too funereal). It mustn't be too bright, or gaudy; we're going for class, right? I prefer black for the shoes, because brown seems more casual to me. As for your tie, pick a special one, one that you love, and incorporate your wedding colours into it. This is not to say that if the colour is baby blue, you should sport a baby blue tie. But a subtle baby blue stripe would be classy and elegant.
I love this discussion! Keep us posted. What scent will you wear?

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Ha ha ha!
Great to get some thoughts from someone so enthusiastic!
I´m chosing between a suit and a frock coat.
A frock coat really says wedding but to me it looks like I´m wearing a vest and an outercoat without the suit jacket if you know what I mean. And also my legs disappear when wearing such a long jacket. But the frock coat itself would look very good, just not sure that it would be as good on me as on the coat hanger in the store. A jaquette would be sooo nice but it is traditionally a daytime wear before 3 pm and since it is a late afternoon wedding and changing before dinner to eveningwear is a little out of my league I´m going to pass on that.
So I will try out a frock coat once more but I have a strong feeling that I will end up in a suit. A suit with a slim fit, black square toe leather shoes. and a vest and tie/kravatte that goes well with the suit as well as my bride to be´s dress. She will be wearing a silk dress wich is not quite white, I think it would be called champagne or creme or something. My shirt will be in the same colour and with french cuffs.
The colour of the suit itself is a tricky one. I´m going for a single-breasted, two-button suit with a marked waist, two back vents and plain-front pants without pleats. Black, white and too bright is out of the question just like you said. It´s in may but not on a beach in Thailand but rather in risk of a cloudy, rainy, semi-cold church or in warm spring. I´m thinking dark blue, medium or charcoal grey or dark brown. Brown is really a good looking colour for a suit but it´s not traditional for weddings and in church. But it´s my wedding and my rules, right? I was going for a medium dark beige vest and a gold colour tie and brown would look good with that, but maybe with a blue suit too.
These are just thoughts and might change from time to time. The wedding is in six months and right now my primary focus in on a science paper due in about three weeks... So in january the search really begins!!
I thought it would be fun too hear some ideas and your thoughts were very similar to mine, Pellen.
A tux or something even more formal is just not me and not fair on our guests either. But everyone has a nice suit to put on and for me a frock coat or suit with some fancy-schmancy accessoirs will definitely do the trick without separating me too much from the stated dress code.
Thanks for responding and thanks to those reading. I didn´t intend to make this thread an ego-trip but more of a general discussion on what you think is a good outfit for a groom. So please share your thoughts; be it from experience or not. Don´t be shy boys and girls!!
/Tobbe
ps: What scent wil lI wear?? My wife to be is insisting on me wearing Gucci Rush because I wore that pretty much on a daily basis at work when we met. Now my taste has develloped and I Rush may not be my first choice for a formal scent. But you can´t argue with emotional value. But if i find a fragrance that she thinks is amazing and more formal then that might do the trick. I love my fragrances and it will be impossible for me to pick one out based on formal scent and favourite. So I´m very confident with the Rush but I´m hoping for at least one contender before my wedding day is here. Heck; I might even create my own wedding fragrance from my favourite notes. Oh it´s too early to think about and a way too big project to get into now. My science paper is calling me
/Tobbe

Answer:
Funny, Rush is one of my favourite scents as well. I'm really not getting what a frock coat is. But I do think it'd be nice for you to stand out in the crowd a bit.
You say you're in Sweden? What part? I live on Gotland for 6 months when I was 18.

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I live in the south of Sweden. I lived in Malmoe for 13 years and in Höllviken (Just 20 kilometres southwest of Malmoe) for 13 years. For the moment i live in Karlshamn wich is located 150 kilomtres northeast of Malmoe. Actually I was located on Gotland for a few months during my military duty and I really love it there. I´ve been telling my GF(soon to be wife!) that we should go there! So, where on Gotland did you live? Where are you from originally?
A frock coat is shaped like a suit jacket but 10-15 centimetres longer, so it ends somewhere between the middle of the thighs and the knees. It is a very old classic in Sweden that wasn´t used so much in the latest century but now it´s back in style again bigtime. For weddings that is. It is of extremely little use otherwise. If I was to wear it to another occation then people would say I had a desperate craving for attention. It´s not part of a dresscode so a tux is of more use than a frock coat. I think a frock coat can also be called a riding coat or a long jacket. It is worn with black pants but the coat can be of any colour and it is common in brokade structure (is brokade a word in english?) Very extravagant and elegant without being extreme or unsuitable but for mainly one occation only so better to rent than buy.
Yeah Rush is great! Putting it on is like coming home after having travelled the world. You have been to amazing places but there is no place like home!
What are your top five or ten fragrances? Would be funny to know to see if taste in outfits and taste in scents correlate!
Fun talking to ya, pellen!

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I lived just outside of Visby in Vibble. I'm from Canada. Saskathewan (which is the midwest) originally, and now I live in Montreal.
The frock coat sounds cool. Kind of a nice mixture of traditional and hip.
Top fragrances just off the top of my head:
Iris Silver Mist
Trouble
Pierre de Lune
Bois Farine
Datura Noir
A la Nuit
Prada
Dune
And I love Fumerie Turque on my boyfriend.
My brother is wearing Boucheron right now and it smells great on him.
Very nice chatting with you as well.

Answer:
I wish I knew those fragrances you mention but my interest has been mainly towards mens fragrances.
My favourites include:
Gucci Rush
Havana Reserva
Armani eau Pour Homme
Creed Royal Scottish Lavender
Rochas Lui
Gucci Pour Homme
Creed Bois de Cédrat
Ralph Lauren Polo(Green)
Hermés Rocabar
Penhaligon´s Blenheim Bouquet
Creed Tabarome Millessime
Bond no 9 Nouveau Bowery
Givenchy Pour Homme Blue Label
/Tobbe