Question:
Originally Posted by bottoni Who the hell gave you a Secret Decoder Ring? Haha!
OK, here's what I've decided. Whenever we talk lately, she complains about how she's going to be alone on Valentines day and her Birthday. When I tell her not to worry about it, she says "It's easy for you to be alone on Valentines day, you're a guy!" Ouch. So, she's not going to get anything for her B-Day or Valentines but a friendly wake up call (I'm thinking 6 AM). I'm beggining to see why we don't work out so much when we are in each other's vicinity, so I'm gonna be the friend that gives her tough love. She needs that more than tulips right now, and I think your points are valid about not keeping her on the back burner.
Completely unrelated question: I'm 18 (19 in three weeks), and I'm interested in a girl that's just about finished her Bachelor's in Science (Psychology). We work together, and she's taking a Java class (right up my ally), so when we talk, we have something to talk about. Summary, I make her laugh, she has intelligent conversation to offer (not the usual stuff either), and I'm definitely physically attracted to her. I'm not going to make a move just yet, but I think that sometime after Valentine's, depending on how our relationship progresses (To more than I kind of know you... Around "Hey you're cool, I might hang out with you sometime"). If nothing happens, whatever, but what do you guys think (assuming she can still offer intelligent conversation a few weeks down the road). I'm not one of those guys to be an asshole to someone who won't go on a date with me, believe me, I value my job WAY more than a date with a cute girl. Just wondering what you guys think about me possibly going on a date with a gal three (3... 3!) years older than me. Thanks,
- Rich

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A three-year age difference is pretty small - it just seems significant to you because you're young and also because you're at an age where people change quickly. That should be a non-issue with someone who you really like and connect with.
A co-worker though ---- hmmm, that's the stickier issue. For me, the answer to whether or not to date someone from work is always No.
But I'm in a position of authority, which does make saying no a bit more mandatory. I guess if she's in the same company but you don't work directly with each other very often, it's probably OK. But generally, dating work people can just invite the possibility of infecting your work environment with awkwardness if things don't turn out too well.

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I personally don't think age is an issue. I mean, twenty years from now, it'll ONLY be a 3 year difference. Proportions change, man.

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Originally Posted by dwntwnjay A co-worker though ---- hmmm, that's the stickier issue. For me, the answer to whether or not to date someone from work is always No. Just my opinion (and we all have heard about opinions and assholes, ie, everyone has one)...

Don't hunt for honey where you earn your money... Or, to put it more bluntly, don't shit where you eat...

This is just some sage advice from an older dude who has been in your shoes... Far too many complications...


Paul