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Originally Posted by Taolady
And are "fat bald guys" not allowed to have dreams and aspirations - just like we svelte hairy ones?
Only asking. Umm...but your gender indicator...ahhh...it indicates...ehhhh...that is....

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Originally Posted by Taolady If you thought he was gay in the first place, and that makes you uncomfortable, why did you keep meeting him?
And are "fat bald guys" not allowed to have dreams and aspirations - just like we svelte hairy ones?
Only asking. You know, this is the only post that I actually agree with.
My view is that you pretty much asked for this — that you have been acting like a tease. If it were me and I were not interested I would not have encouraged him past the point when I realised that he was gay and interested. I wouldn't have had coffee with him, and I wouldn't have gone smelling frags with him, ex-girlfriend hovering about or not.
My feeling is that every contact that you have with this guy will be complicated by mis-read signals and a growing sense of betrayal. If you have the idea that you can use this guy in a business sense then I think you should reconsider: he may well eat you alive. And if you get burned you'll have no one to blame but yourself.
Sorry, that's some tough love there: but I sense disaster for you up ahead. Take it no further.

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Originally Posted by Jasmin de Grasse NO! etc. ... I liked reading what you wrote. Ne permettras-tu pas que nous en causions ensemble?

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Originally Posted by kbe Umm...but your gender indicator...ahhh...it indicates...ehhhh...that is.... The Universal "we"!! (You got all them Tao books - you know how that works!! )

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Interesting the way this thread has gone.
Apparently, if one is a straight male and meets with a gay guy for purely social encounters, then one is somehow leading the poor gay guy on. And he can't be held responsible for his subsequent actions.
Seems like a sexist, anti-straight view to me.
Or possibly even, a "Stay away from gays if you are straight" view.
Suppose there was an exactly analogous situation where the person with the unwanted advances was a woman who had been meeting a straight guy socially - would anyone seriously argue she was somehow leading him on, and that he can't be held responsible for his subsequent actions?
Renato

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Originally Posted by Taolady The Universal "we"!! (You got all them Tao books - you know how that works!! ) Ahhh..yes oui oui

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Originally Posted by CoTHukoB I liked reading what you wrote. Ne permettras-tu pas que nous en causions ensemble? yes of course I 'd love to, tu peux m 'envoyer un message si tu veux
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Originally Posted by Taolady If you thought he was gay in the first place, and that makes you uncomfortable, why did you keep meeting him?
Only asking. I was afraid to go that far but that 's how I felt too, regardless of everything there 's obvious curiosity, I even wondered the validation and real truth of this story.
remember sexuality has a wider and richer complex spectrum than just gay or straight, it 's said up to 30% of men are on the bisexual side.

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Thank you, i'll try to organize my thoughts tomorrow and get in touch with you. I will use English, i don't quite trust my command of French for complicated concepts like these.
J'ai l'honneur d'être, etc.

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Originally Posted by Renato Interesting the way this thread has gone.
Apparently, if one is a straight male and meets with a gay guy for purely social encounters, then one is somehow leading the poor gay guy on. And he can't be held responsible for his subsequent actions.
Seems like a sexist, anti-straight view to me.
Or possibly even, a "Stay away from gays if you are straight" view.
Suppose there was an exactly analogous situation where the person with the unwanted advances was a woman who had been meeting a straight guy socially - would anyone seriously argue she was somehow leading him on, and that he can't be held responsible for his subsequent actions?
Renato I agree with Renato. Or perhaps what was being said was "If you are straight, you should be wary of gay guys, because you shouldn't be friends with them unless you have a gay relationship with them." I can't see a better way to keep gay men in the closet than this. "If you are gay, you can't have any straight friends." I think we should be ignoring the fact that he's gay, and only judge him by the way he treats others.
- Rich

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Originally Posted by CoTHukoB Thank you, i'll try to organize my thoughts tomorrow and get in touch with you. I will use English, i don't quite trust my command of French for complicated concepts like these.
J'ai l'honneur d'être, etc.
english, french or spanish it 's all good to me baby!
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Originally Posted by _R$_ I agree with Renato. Or perhaps what was being said was "If you are straight, you should be wary of gay guys, because you shouldn't be friends with them unless you have a gay relationship with them." I can't see a better way to keep gay men in the closet than this. "If you are gay, you can't have any straight friends." I think we should be ignoring the fact that he's gay, and only judge him by the way he treats others.
- Rich it 's really unfair and confusing for all openly gay men to say this guy is gay, he 's a closeted homosexual, that 's why he acts like this, if he was gay and in touch with himself and the world he wouldn 't.