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I don't have a fragrance suggestion for you, but I wanted to express my sorrow at your loss.

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My first thought, like others here, was lavender, and Jicky EDT in particular. Here comes another hug from the many BNers who are encircling you with their arms.

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I am very sorry and hope you're ok as you read this.
I'm going to say anything citrus. Citrus is prescribed in aromatherapy. The use of citrus in depression is common. Maybe not a cologne maybe the real thing, or a candle.

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Oh, Hebe (((HUGS))). So sorry you are going through this. Been there myself (twice) many years ago.
At that time, another friend who also went through several miscarriages said it best: You have lost a bit of hope, and it is devastating. PM me if you want or need to commiserate.
Fragrance-wise, I agree that you should avoid known scents that you already love, though perhaps whatever frag you find to help get you through this time may later become a well-loved scent on its own, as an honor and tribute to your almost-hope.
Personally recommend ginger, citrus and/or lavendar-based scents, as both solace and mood elevators. One that is fantastic, and also happens to include a hearty note of the multiply-previously-suggested rose, is Parfums Del Rae's Eau Illuminee.
Others I might suggest are 4711 (very light and gentle), absolutely anything lavendar and The Thymes Ginger Milk (which I first bought when I was going through a bit of a rough patch emotionally, and is now one of my favorites, no negative associations!).
Be gentle with yourself, and with your partner if you have one.

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Remembering you and your loss in my prayers, my heart goes out to you, Hebe. Two of the softest and most gentle fragrances I know are Clinique Simply and Jil Sander Sensations. Also agree with lavender for healing, or perhaps a fragrance worn by your own mother when you were a child might give you comfort.

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I'm new to posting on Basenotes, there were some really nice suggestions here. Since no one mentioned it, some aromatherapy blends may help also. Many of the classics use rose otto, sandalwood, or cypress. These are expensive, but you only need a very small amount. I would definitely go with a more reputable essential oil vendor, such as Eden Botanicals to buy them from, since they are far pricier than fragrance oils. Also, because they aren't perfumes, you will not have that memory lingering in your mind every time you smell them, since they are not oils worn alone.
If you do a search on the net, there are a lot of different grief blends... maybe in just doing the research, you can help both focus and distract a little from the pain. I totally feel for you.

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I'm so sorry to hear that
Philosphy makes fabulous cuddly scents. Sephora and Nordstrom carry Philosophy.

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Thank you all so much, your thoughts and prayers and suggestions are truly appreciated.

The rose suggestions are striking a chord - I started to miscarry on Feb 15th when the front room had a massive vase of red roses from my darling husband from Valentines Day. He was so excited about being a father, and now he is struggling too. I wondered about En Passant too, also Angeliques sous la pluie, both of which samples are with my friend at present. I think he is a good enough friend to pass them back in my hour of need. Unfortunately anything with the slightest hint of aniseed is out, as oh really doesn't like it. I'm wondering about Bois Farine - Jour de Fete is one of my staples, so I don't really want to taint that one with sorrow, but I think bois farine is another sample I will dig out.

I love the idea of the scent of baby smells, but think that could be a bit close to the bone for me right now.

Sorry not to respond to everyone right now, but I am truly grateful and send tearful hugs back to you all.

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Sending good thoughts and hugs to you and your husband from Kansas ... be good to yourself and to each other ...

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I'm so sorry for both you & Mr. Hebe!
I think the most healing scent for you might be the sweet, familiar scent of Mr. Hebe and the same for goes for him. There is something about the way Mr.Tinker's skin smells when we hug that can soothe my soul & help my troubled heart like nothing else.
Best wishes for you both! Allie